Ahh, the good ole days. How times have changed.
When I first started in the Jewelry Industry 20 odd years ago, things were so different back then. Guys would come into a Jewelry Store and pick out a Wedding Set for the Woman of their Dreams!
They would spend time picking out the Perfect Bridal Set. Back then, most Wedding Sets were what they would call 2-Piece. It had an Engagement Ring and a Wedding Band.
The Two Rings would then Fit Together, usually Interlocking, to Form a Beautiful Design of Diamonds and Sparkle!
Rings were made back then to Split Apart the Design. So when you were Engaged, the Ring would look like Only Half a Ring. Not until you were actually Married did the Rings actually Unite to Form the Finished Look.
It always created that “I Can’t Wait to Get Married!” Anticipation.
Fiancees would be giddy for a year or two until the bond was finally made and their Rings (along with them) became one again.
I miss those days. I often think:
“What the Hell Happened?”
Because now, things are so different. Women now come in with their Man to Shop. They pretty much tell the Man which Ring to Buy. (or sometimes if the Guy is Lucky, a Choice of TWO Rings!)
Now the ONLY Surprise is WHEN she’ll get it!
Things have become too Materialistic!
And here I was thinking it was all about Love!
Just look at what the Trend has become. It’s getting harder and harder to find a Wedding Set out there. Really! Most Jewelers are now carrying what they call a ‘One Piece‘ Wedding Ring. It’s a Ring that stands for Both the Engagement Ring AND the Wedding Ring all rolled up in one.
You Really Want the Whole Finished Look Now?
These ‘One Piece‘ Wedding Rings give you the Entire Package right now. The Whole Finished Look. You no longer have to wait patiently for the BIG DAY!
Maybe you’ll get lucky and find one of those Wedding Sets where the Wedding Band is just a Little Sliver or Gold fitted up against the Engagement Ring? (see photo)
These little Flush Bands are called ‘Shadow Bands‘. It’s Thin, it doesn’t really change the look of the Ring any. The main purpose is just for “Tradition Only!” It’s just basically saying, “I have a Wedding Band!” No other reason.
I always Laugh at that!
Why Bother? That Little Thin Piece of Metal is the Incentive to get Married? It’s Silly! Women get the Entire Look now and aren’t even concerned about that Little Wedding Band Trinket! BAH!
What do I have to say about all of this? Bull-Dookey! Bring back the Surprise and Romance to getting Engaged. Don’t take her Shopping!
Don’t Ruin the Surprise!
If you really want to get her involved, try this: Go out and Buy her the Biggest, Prettiest, Highest-Quality Diamond that you can Afford. Have it set in a Standard Simple Tiffany-Style Engagement Ring Setting (See Rings Here).
Find a Unique way to Propose and give it to her. You’ll be happy you did. These are things she’s been looking forward to all her life. Don’t take that from her.
Have her then Help Decide upon the Wedding Band. She’ll be Ecstatic that it was a Surprise. Her Girlfriends will be Blown away. She’ll be Excited that she gets to Pick out the Setting. And She’ll Love you for Not Ruining the Romance.
And if you can sway her into getting a Wedding Set that actually looks like 2 pieces until the Wedding Day, all the better.
It’ll have a much Stronger and More Beautiful Meaning.
And with this Ring, she will always say “I DO!“