So you have an Engagement Ring that you don't like. He didn't pick up on any of your so called "
Hints". Now you have an Ugly Engagement Ring.
What's next?
Do you tell him? Do you hurt his feelings? Are you going to have to wear that monstrosity forever?
Maybe, maybe not! But you should act fast, and handle the situation quickly. (While the Jeweler still has an exchange policy! Most exchange policies are from a Week to 3 Months. It varies from Jeweler to Jeweler.)
Here's what I advise:
Find a reason to get a different Engagement Ring. Come up with something that sounds plausible like:
"It's top heavy and just spins on my finger!""Baguettes get Cloudy and Dirty up too quickly!"
"Channel Set Diamonds are too hard to clean!"
"The Prongs snag my sweater!"
"Marquise Cut Diamonds rip my panty hose!"
"My skin reacts to Yellow Gold!"
It doesn't matter what you say, as long as you say something that's believable! Then say to him something like: "I love the Ring you picked out, but is there a way we can look at different mountings?" You can make up something about the way it feels on your finger, or how hard it would be to maintain... Saying things like this will work! As long as you don't say "You bought me an Ugly Ring and I Hate it!" you'll be fine.
Guys want you to be happy
I've never, ever heard of a Guy saying NO to these types of reasonings. Trust me, Guys want you to be happy with your Ring. If you're not happy with the Ring, you're not happy with him. Speak up! If you want something different, better say so now before you get Married. Once you're Married, then you have no choice but to keep that Ring forever and ever.
Fessing up is the only way to go. Don't start keeping secrets now. Some Women are blunt about it and just don't care. They'll say it sucks! They'll say they had their eyes on a different Ring or Diamond. What ever your way of saying it, do it soon. Don't wait.
The bottom line
Men will be fine with it. To Men, your Ring is just Diamonds and Gold. They have no emotional connection to it like Women do. They won't get bummed out if you choose a new setting. It's no big deal.
Women are the ones that make this harder than it really is. Just tell him! "A Triangle Shaped Diamond? Awwww, I wanted a Round Diamond!" And if you love the center stone, tell him. Say "I LOVE the Diamond you picked out, but the Mounting is too Low, or too High, or too many Prongs, or too Wide on my finger"... Make something up!
So then what happens?
Go with him to the Jewelry Store to exchange the Mounting. That way you can get something else that you really do like. And if he picked out an Ugly Diamond as well, then just trade the whole stinking Ring in. It's your Ring. You have to be happy with it. Don't be stuck with an Ugly Wedding Ring. You want one that you'll be proud to show off to all your Girlfriends. You don't want to hide it! That's no fun.
Or, you can just do what one customer of mine did Ten Years ago... She "Accidentally" left it in the bathroom at the Airport.
Whoops! Time to get a new Ring!
Just pray it's insured!
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