This is the only time you'll be hearing both of them say
"I DO!"It's the ultimate question.
Couples always ask for advice on the big break up. What's the correct procedure in dealing with the Engagement Ring after a split?
Couples fight over who gets to keep the ring. It's a struggle between men and women and possession and feelings and right and wrong. I like to call it the battle of beauty and the beast!
Let me walk you through both sides of the story...
The Man Buys the Ring
There's no dispute there. And in most cases, the man is STILL paying for the ring. Usually on an Interest bearing account that will take years to pay off. He went in debt under the condition that you two would wed. Those conditions are what the engagement ring was given under.
Now bear with me, I will touch all the subjects regarding these so-called-conditions!
So the Man feels that upon break-up, the ring should be rightfully his and returned to him. This way he could clear his debt and the split between their commitment is totally broken and void.
He bought the ring in good faith. She accepted the ring in good faith. That ring is only a symbol of the unity to come. The unity is the wedding... You know, that thing where half of your stuff is now their stuff!
Now She on the other Hand
She feels like the ring was given as a "Present" to her. She was given this ring and now owns this ring. It's hers! She feels she can do anything with the ring that she wants. Too bad for him, he's outta luck.
It Gets Uglier!
Complications arise. People want to blame the other person for the break up. They actually base their decisions upon that blame. She says "If he breaks up with me, I keep the ring! But if I break up with him, I give the ring back!"
He says the same thing.
But the battle of the precious ring gets deeper...
