{"id":23886,"date":"2018-06-09T11:06:13","date_gmt":"2018-06-09T15:06:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.jewelry-secrets.com\/Blog\/?p=23886"},"modified":"2024-01-17T11:34:22","modified_gmt":"2024-01-17T16:34:22","slug":"my-story-isnt-over-yet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jewelry-secrets.com\/Blog\/my-story-isnt-over-yet\/","title":{"rendered":"MY STORY ISN’T OVER YET ;"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"My<\/div>\n

I get it<\/h2>\n

\nSuicide is the easy way out. <\/p>\n

\nYou think “Screw this<\/strong>, screw them<\/strong>, screw life<\/strong>, no one will miss me<\/strong>…”<\/p>\n

But you’re wrong!<\/h2>\n

\nAs more and more hollywood suicides become the norm<\/strong>, I’m here to say:<\/p>\n

I can’t take it anymore!<\/h2>\n

\nEnough with the heartbreak and sadness!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nAnd as much as I try to write only about jewelry<\/strong> on this website, I’m breaking my code, my stance, my silence… Because this post is deep, honest, and raw<\/strong>. So if you don’t want to hear my story<\/strong>, kindly traverse away.<\/p>\n

\nAs common folk, most of us think that fame and fortune<\/strong> is the essence of life. After all, the whole world revolves around money. <\/p>\n

\nBut as wealthy star after star ends their life, it’s quite apparent that suicide is not kind<\/strong> to those who have everything<\/strong> either.<\/p>\n

\nAnthony Bourdain<\/strong>, Kate Spade, Avicii<\/strong>, Stephanie Adams, Mark Salling<\/strong>, all in just 2018<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nAnd last year; August Ames<\/strong>, Chris Cornell, Aaron Hernandez<\/strong>, Dan Johnson, Michael Mantenuto<\/strong>, Kim Jonghyun, Stephen Paddock<\/strong>, Slobodan Praljak, Carl Sargeant<\/strong>, Stephen Wooldridge, and Chester Bennington<\/strong> (Man I really loved Linkin Park<\/strong>)…<\/p>\n

“I’m holding on<\/p>\n

\nWhy is everything so heavy?<\/p>\n

\nHolding on<\/p>\n

\nSo much more than I can carry<\/p>\n

\nI keep dragging around what’s bringing me down<\/p>\n

\nIf I just let go, I’d be set free”<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

So something is clearly missing…<\/h2>\n

\nThe basic human desire to be loved<\/strong>. To feel wanted<\/strong>, needed<\/strong>, to feel anything at all but agony, anguish, misery<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

\nAnd I know. I’ve been there<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nSo many times before I’ve thought “What if?<\/strong>“<\/p>\n

\nAnd I’m not trying to point the spotlight on me, no<\/strong>. That’s the farthest thing from the truth. I don’t want pity <\/strong>or sorrow <\/strong>or scorn<\/strong>… I’m just here to say IT’S REAL<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Suicide Affects Everyone!<\/h2>\n

\nBecause as long as I can remember, I’ve thought about suicide<\/strong>. Seriously. My whole life<\/strong>. For I don’t like who I’ve become. I don’t like the direction that my life has taken me. I don’t like where I’m at at this point in my life. I don’t even like myself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nI certainly thought that life would get easier<\/strong> as I got older. I was wrong. It only gets harder<\/strong>. Worse. There is no “up<\/strong>” to this rollercoaster. Only down<\/strong>. Deeper and deeper into darkness…<\/p>\n

\nThere are many events<\/strong>, circumstances, reasons <\/strong>why I feel this way:<\/p>\n

\nI didn’t talk to my dad for over 20 years<\/strong>. And I knew the day that I moved out of his house that it would probably be the last time I’d ever see him alive. I was close<\/strong>. I saw him on his deathbed twice…<\/p>\n

\nWhich was fine with me, for I hated him<\/strong>. Hated what he did to me. Hated what he made me…<\/p>\n

\nNever once did he ever tell me that he loved me<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Never!<\/h2>\n

\nHe loved his alcohol<\/strong>. He liked to drive drunk (and crash many times). He also liked to beat me<\/strong>. Scream at me. Abuse me<\/strong>. Knock me down on the ground with a belt<\/strong>. Verbally, physically, mentally<\/strong>, punishing me. I was never good enough<\/strong>… I put up with that for 20 so years.<\/p>\n

And my mom was no better.<\/h2>\n

\nShe didn’t beat me, but she did yank my head back<\/strong> viscously by my hair. Whack me with a metal flyswatter<\/strong> repeatedly. She left my dad when I was 13<\/strong>. She left him because he abused her too<\/strong>. She was scared to death for her life. She ran<\/strong>. Left us kids (me and my sister) with a child beater. Thanks mom!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nShe pulled me aside that day she was leaving and told me (through teary eyes<\/strong>), that she’d come back to get us. She swore<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

She lied!<\/h2>\n

\nShe never did. Didn’t care. Never tried<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nShe ran off and married the neighbor<\/strong> (who lived across the street). We didn’t find out until 7 years later…<\/p>\n

\nShe never came to my school plays<\/strong>, art shows, award ceremonies<\/strong>, not even graduation<\/strong>. She couldn’t be bothered…<\/p>\n

\nThen one of my best friends commited suicide<\/strong> fresh out of high school.<\/p>\n

That still haunts me today!<\/h2>\n

\nMy dad made me feel weak and timid<\/strong>. Gave me zero confidence<\/strong>, ambition, drive, self esteem<\/strong>… I had to find that all by myself.<\/p>\n

\nAnd even today, when faced with confrontation<\/strong>, I back down<\/strong>. Whither away. I still feel the abusive side effects<\/strong>, and it makes me mad <\/strong>inside. I hate it. How dare he!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nI’ve only seen my mom once in the past 13 years (Niece’s graduation<\/strong>). It was very awkward and tense<\/strong> (Her husband wouldn’t even look at me… Like I was invisible<\/strong>. A monster<\/strong>)…<\/p>\n

So you see, I’ve felt alone my whole life.<\/h2>\n

\nI never felt like I fit in. I never drank<\/strong> (I owe that to my dad), never adjusted to groups (social phobia<\/strong>), never had a strong reason for existing<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

\nMy sister is the only true relative that I talk to. She’s the only one who understands me (and I love her to death<\/strong>).<\/p>\n

\nSo I could go on and on. There’s a thousand more things<\/strong> that make me sad and blue, tears me up inside<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nBeing bullied<\/strong>, ridiculed, persecuted<\/strong>, condemned to Hell<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

So yes, I’ve been there.<\/h2>\n

\nMost of it for me now is finances <\/strong>(the crutch of human existence<\/strong>). <\/p>\n

\nAnd when the future looks bleak<\/strong>, dark, dim<\/strong>… You tend to hate yourself. Hate the world<\/strong>. Who cares… Wouldn’t it be easier?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nI have to stop myself and say “NO!<\/strong>“<\/p>\n

\nGive it deeper thought. Even when my mind is screaming “HOW?<\/strong>” “WITH WHAT?<\/strong>” and “WHEN????<\/strong>”<\/p>\n

“STOP IT! STOP IT! STOP!”<\/h2>\n

\nDon’t entertain that thought<\/strong>. It’s a virus that will eat one alive<\/strong>. It will rear its ugly head every so often and start poking at you, pushing in. For life really is a bear<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nUntil you realize that you’re not alone<\/strong>. No.<\/p>\n

\nInfact…<\/strong><\/p>\n

Everyone’s Life Sucks!<\/h2>\n

\n(That’s what I tell myself.<\/strong>) No one gets it any easier. Everyone has crap<\/strong>… Family<\/strong>, friends, work<\/strong>, finances, health<\/strong>, relationships… Everything is messed up, tossed around to some extent<\/strong>… Even the rich and famous<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nThere’s a ton of lows<\/strong>, for sure. And maybe, just maybe, an equal amount of highs<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Does it all balance out?<\/h2>\n

\nPerhaps<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Should it?<\/h2>\n

\nWho knows<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nLife isn’t fair, we all know that. But you make the best with what you’re dealt<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nAnd you do that day by day<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nMe, I try to stay positive<\/strong>. I try to always laugh, tell jokes<\/strong>, inspire others… I have to!<\/strong> I need to spread some smiles and cheer. Keep my sanity<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nThis is also why I write posts<\/strong> here on my website… Jewelry and writing is a passion of mine<\/strong>… They make me happy<\/strong> (although this post is a drastic change<\/strong>, something personal and dark… But I felt the need to contribute<\/strong>).<\/p>\n

\nAnd staying upbeat doesn’t always work, it’s tough, but I’m still here, pushing through, trying to stay focused and facing forward<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

So what do I do?<\/h2>\n

\nI feed my mind with good vibe seeds<\/strong>. I plant words of wisdom<\/strong> into my brain and yearn for a brighter future.<\/p>\n

\nFor I do still believe in it<\/strong>. <\/p>\n

\nAnd I’ve found that one thing really helps me. It actually works wonders<\/strong> for me.<\/p>\n

\nIt’s something that I came upon by accident, and was highly intrigued<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I’ll share it with you:<\/h2>\n

\nI write<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nI keep a daily journal<\/strong>. A journal that I ran across on Amazon<\/strong>. A 5 year journal<\/a> that has one purpose: to get you to write only positive things<\/strong>. Nothing negative. Just the good stuff<\/strong>… Short sentences everyday. A few lines, a phrase, some tiny tidbits<\/strong>. A quote, a joke…<\/p>\n

\nAnd I can write anything I want to, as long as it’s positive<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

That’s the Trick!<\/h2>\n

\nPositive things that happened that day. The lovely pieces and pleasures of life<\/strong>. The things we all take for granted<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nAnd by doing this, it forces me to think. Think hard about what happened that day that made me happy. What made me feel good (even for a second<\/strong>). What made me smile, and laugh, and lifted my spirits<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nFor there are many moments everyday (I’ve found that out<\/strong>), that most would overlook.<\/p>\n

We’re all guilty of that.<\/h2>\n

\nAs humans, we’re always focusing on the negative side of things. The horrible news<\/strong>, the heartbreak, the pain <\/strong>and suffering… The dismay!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nSo a book like this helped transform<\/strong> the way that I thought. It made me sift through my day and find those hidden treasures<\/strong>. Even if it’s the smallest most insignificant thing<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nAnd in the end, my journal gets filled with positivity<\/strong>. Like a photograph… Moments frozen in time<\/strong>. Where everyone is smiling<\/strong>, happy, laughing<\/strong>… For that’s how we want to be remembered. The way things ought to be. A better time<\/strong>. A better place.<\/p>\n

\nAnd I’ve been writing in my positive journal for over 2 years now<\/strong>. And when I go back and read what happened last year, or the year before… I SMILE!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nIt’s all beautiful stuff (That was me?<\/strong>)<\/p>\n

\nIt’s joyful<\/strong>. Heartwarming<\/strong>. Inner peace<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And it really does work!<\/h2>\n

\nI’ve been able to push aside my darkness<\/strong> and turn towards the light.<\/p>\n

\nIt’s such a little thing, but it truly was a lifesaver<\/strong>. It transformed me (transforms me everyday<\/strong>).<\/p>\n

\nSo if you’re in that place<\/strong> yourself, that deep well that you’re digging with bloody hands. If you feel there’s no way out…<\/strong><\/p>\n

THERE IS!<\/h2>\n

\nDo yourself a favor<\/strong>… Grab a journal<\/a>, a notebook, some paper and pen<\/strong>… AND WRITE!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nIt’s therapy<\/strong>. A much needed release<\/strong>…<\/p>\n

It’s an escape for me.<\/h2>\n

\nWrite ONLY the good parts<\/strong>. There are way more than you give yourself credit for. See what you really take for granted.<\/p>\n

\nWrite about things you love<\/strong>, your favorite foods, your dream vacation<\/strong>, your funniest memory, a teenage crush<\/strong>, a comic, a joke<\/strong>, a fairy tale…<\/p>\n

Anything. JUST WRITE!<\/h2>\n

\nOr you can paint<\/strong>, draw<\/strong>, sing a song<\/strong>, create something, express yourself through dance<\/strong>, art… Whatever inspires your soul!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nJust the good though, never the bad!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nYou don’t need to go there. Ever again<\/strong>. Just the positive, the positive thinking<\/strong>… Let that sink in. It really does outweigh the adverse<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

You’d be Surprised!<\/h2>\n

\nAnd if you know of a friend<\/strong>, colleague, family member<\/strong>, loved one, who seems “depressed<\/strong>“, “anxious<\/strong>” “upset<\/strong>“… Someone who’s talked about suicide<\/strong>, brought it up… Shut themselves off to the world<\/strong>… BUY THEM A BOOK!<\/a> (I write with a glow-in-the-dark pen<\/a> because it makes me happy<\/strong>…)<\/p>\n

\n\"My<\/p>\n

\nI write every night before I go to bed (it’s a habit now<\/strong>), I don’t miss a single day.<\/p>\n

\nSometimes silly stuff<\/strong>. Stupid stuff<\/strong>… But MY <\/strong>stuff. ME!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nAnd I feel the energy<\/strong>. The electricity<\/strong>. The enthusiasm<\/strong> behind it… It sparks my brain and keeps my demons at bay<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

And it will work for you too!<\/h2>\n

\nGet you out of that dark doom<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nAnd if all else fails, call someone<\/strong>; a relative<\/strong>, a friend, a co-worker<\/strong>… Someone.<\/p>\n

Call the Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-8255<\/h2>\n

\nFor you have to get the anger out<\/strong>. Vent some. Get that stress off your shoulders<\/strong>. Free your burdens and crushing pressure…<\/p>\n

\nBecause there’s always another way<\/strong>. A new path to take. A fork in the road that leads to a better person<\/strong>, a brighter purpose<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Just you wait and see!<\/h2>\n

\nAnd if you need guidance. Reach out! PLEASE!<\/strong><\/p>\n

\nIf you need to cry<\/strong>, yell, scream<\/strong>, ramble… DO SO!<\/strong> Just find an ear to listen.<\/p>\n

\nDon’t wall yourself in<\/strong>. Don’t give up on yourself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I WON’T!<\/h2>\n

\nLife does get better<\/strong>. There are happy times<\/strong> coming. And you will be so glad that you stuck around… really!<\/strong><\/p>\n

I guarantee it!<\/h2>\n

\nYou just have to look up, into the beautiful blue sky, and say to yourself “It’ll be alright!<\/strong>“<\/p>\n

\nFor it will<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\nJust take my hand, and we’ll get through this<\/strong>. For support is the backbone<\/strong> that we all need and desire.<\/p>\n

Trust me.<\/h2>\n

\nI’m here.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let’s all be here together!<\/h2>\n

\nCheers! :)<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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